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child_wow 400x265We thought our community would appreciate a different view on some of the hot topics in our industry.

As values have been a bit of theme this year, we knew who to go to!  So drum roll please… We’d like to introduce Jackie Le Fevre, Director at Magma Effect

We asked Jackie to contribute some fresh thinking into how values affect the way we work.  This blog explores how our values filter what we notice about the world around us, which then creates a bias for how we extract meaning from any moment.  You can connect with Jackie here!

So without further ado…

Magic moments

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Magic moments,

Memories we’ve been sharing

A reflective note from the 1957 song written by Bacharach and David and the biggest UK hit for Perry Como. I don’t know about you but I often find when comparing memories with other people who were there at the time that our recollections differ: sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.

For instance I remember Christmas lunch last year as a relaxed, leisurely affair with plenty of laughter and far too much good food. My youngest daughter (then 13) remembers it being a drawn out affair that went on too long and simply got in the way of being able to open the presents under the tree.

How is it possible for groups of people with close relationships – be that within, family, friendship or workplace groups – to make such different meanings out of essentially the same experiences?

Prof Peter Sells of the University of York says “the interaction of message, mind and context creates meaning”. This makes sense really as we are dynamic beings that are aware of past, present and future and are interested in drawing on those perspectives to achieve better outcomes for ourselves and others. What interests me is that ‘mind’ component.

Daniel Goleman says  “The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice there is little we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.”

So what determines what we notice and what we fail to notice?

Well for one thing we are only human. Every moment of every day there is more information coming at us in terms of what we see, hear, taste, smell and touch for us to be able to make sense of it all so we have to filter some stuff out. Thing is most of that filtering is done at an unconscious level by structures in our limbic system hence that fact that as Daniel says ‘we fail to notice that we fail to notice’.

Our personal values play a powerful role in the filtering activity of the limbic brain. For example I have a very strong ‘play’ value which determined what I noticed about Christmas dinner whereas Victoria with a weak ‘patience’ value combined with a strong ‘status/image’ value was just desperate to know whether she did or did not have a new iPod.

If you want to stop failing to notice and thereby increase your options of what to think and do I thoroughly recommend getting to grips with your personal values. One of the many wonderful things about values is that you can’t have the ‘wrong’ ones and that if you want different ones you can effect that change.

Let’s go back to the ideas of magic and moments.

Magic has long been thought of as a power that invisibly (or supernaturally) influences the outcome of events.

A moment (in physics) is the turning force that acts upon the fixed point of an object (such as the hinge of a door or axle of a wheel) and then causes it to turn.

Your values are invisibly influencing the outcomes you seek and providing the driving force of intention that acts in key moments to put you on one path as opposed to another.

Maybe 2014 has been so full of magic moments that you would happily live through a rerun in 2015: but if not it may be time for a different approach.

Why not lift your eyes, open your mind and consciously harness your values for a 2015 filled with meaningful moments and magical insights? That’s my plan.

Jackie Le Fevre

Director at Magma Effect